Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

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For anyone who has experienced emotional martyrdom and excessive guilt surrounding self-care issues, this is a necessary read! Beattie's book instead seems dated to me, bound up as it is with the classic origins of the term "co-dependence" in the partners of alcoholics. This ground-breaking book is even more relevant today, as readers confront new, urgent challenges with greater self-awareness than when it first entered the national conversation over 35 years ago. This book very gently shows that your not a failure but you do need to work on yourself not the other person.

It's sort of hard to rate self-help books so I'm just going to rate this one on how helpful it was to me in particular. As a result, codependents become controlling, moody and often adopt a martyr syndrome that never fixes anything. I think the title of this book should have reflected the fact it was primarily geared towards alcoholics and/or children of alcoholics. Maybe, by sharing these thoughts, someone else might be inspired to read this book and better themselves as well. When we attempt to control people and things that we have no business controlling, we are controlled.

It's pretty amazing for anyone who has struggled to figure out why they often put others first but feel guilty taking care of themselves. I was thinking of "co-dependency" in a more generic sense — say, the way a married couple can be enmeshed and lose their boundaries with each other. That didn't speak to me, but this book was written for codependent folks who might need that sort of "You're okay! The fact that she mentions other groups doesn't matter much if 90% of the book is spent referring to codependents as people who have encountered some form of addiction. I think the baseline message was articulated very well, in terms of what the core dynamics of codependency are - essentially, caring too much about, and being too influenced by, what other people think, want, etc.

It might put some people off that it is based on the Al-Anon principles of 12 steps but if you can substitute the word of the problem that you are involved with in place of the word alcohol then it will become enlightening for you.Uma mensagem por e-mail será enviada antes do término do período gratuito, que pode ser cancelado a qualquer momento. In my humble, imperfect, but conscientiously observed opinion, it is dependent on a deeply honest, deeply caring uncovering of both our personal layers of trauma and our inherent intelligence and wisdom. The best line is these two books is that codependents do "all the wrong things for all the right reasons.

With practical advice and real-life examples, it offers tools for building healthier relationships and finding personal fulfillment. With instructive life stories, personal reflections, exercises, and self-tests, Codependent No More is a simple, straightforward, readable map of the perplexing world of codependency--charting the path to freedom and a lifetime of healing, hope, and happiness.Though the warning signs came early – he stayed out drinking all night on their honeymoon – Jessica was in denial about her husband’s condition . prisitaikyti, ypač LT, savo situacijai gali daug kas - gal čia išvis yra šių laikų psichologijos mada / ženklas, tas "mano emocijos vaikystėje buvo neglectinamos, mano asmenybė buvo nepastebėta". I followed the book as closely as possible, worked through the activities and realized that I was making mistakes too, and with the help of this book I can work on fixing my problems. Nor am I discounting the experiences of those who feel they benefit from it - recovery and benefit are valuable however they come to any individual. This is a very practical guide to understanding and changing your codependent relationships, aka taking back your life and embracing who you are.