Habit of Winning: Stories to Inspire, Motivate and Unleash the Winner Within

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We think about succeeding in terms of someone else losing – if I win, you lose, if you win, I lose. It’s the mentality of fighting for a larger piece of the pie. But what if both of us could eat some of the pie and be fully satisfied? Jill Bausch is a coach, philanthropic strategist, facilitator, social impact advisor and author of Why Brave Women Win, published by Leaders Press on November 1, 2022. It is far better to stay optimistic and positive about the outcomes. See yourself making that shot as your take it. Know that you are doing the best you can on the project, and the boss will love it. See yourself reaching your goals, plan to avoid obstacles and visualize your success. 4. Use Your Power of Self Determination The Win-Lose paradigm concludes everything as a competition. It makes it seem that a person’s success must come regardless of the impact it may have on others. An authoritarian style is used by leaders who have a win-lose mentality. This mindset usually concerns authority, power, personality, or status to achieve what is desired. Most of us learn to base our self-worth on comparisons and competition. We think about succeeding in terms of someone else failing–that is, if I win, you lose; or if you win, I lose. Life becomes a zero-sum game. There is only so much pie to go around, and if you get a big piece, there is less for me; it’s not fair, and I’m going to make sure you don’t get any more. We all play the game, but how much fun is it really? Why is Habit 4 so Important?

Prakash Iyer's style is direct and simple. He has touched various aspects of life, with an emphasis on leadership. They should be spiritual and believe in something greater than themselves, regardless of what shape that belief takes. They should take equal effort to enjoying time with their family as they do diving into projects at work. This is where the smarmy guys doing bromance fist-bumps does come into play. It is important to have a high self-esteem and self confidence to be a winner.

6. Thinking flexibly

He describes a goal as a positive thought that would help us in replacing and banishing negative thoughts. I have come across many points of view on the need and importance of goals. From Prakash Iyer's book I have learnt this view - that a goal will entrenched in mind could work as a purifier by driving away negative thoughts - and I really value it. Life is a difficult game. You can win it only by retaining your birthright to be a person.” – A.P.J. Abdul Kalam

Until you find your WHY, you will always be starting and stopping and will never win. Never become a winner. So find your WHY and let it fuel you. An Abundance Mentality reassures you that there is plenty — of success, money, and happiness — for everyone. You can only see the possibility of both people winning if you believe that one person’s success doesn’t come at the expense of the other person’s success. First, that moment of silence has other participants thinking, “You didn’t spend the time I was speaking thinking about your response, you spent it really listening”. That builds trust. Jill explains: ‘Coined by a group of researchers at the turn of the century, “crucial conversations” refer to interactions of “high stakes, differing views, and strong emotions”. Winners are always striving to be the best, do their best and show up with their best. This is how winning is done. Anything less will lead to losing. Both in life as well as within yourself and the internal struggle to keep you mediocre. Override the need to be mediocre to get by. Replace it will excellent work ethic and the desire to be the rest. Until this need is overridden and you become a champion in every area of your life.No single paradigm is best for every situation; there will be times when different frameworks are appropriate. The challenge is to have an accurate enough perspective of a situation to determine which paradigm fits best, without just defaulting to what your scripting has ingrained in you. A high-stakes subject to one person might be chit-chat to another so consider what actually is a crucial conversation and choose your method of communication carefully.