Happy High Status: How to Be Effortlessly Confident

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There are experts out there that are much better at talking about this then me. But in terms of principles there are two you must follow: Happy high status is a new way of thinking about confidence and how you relate to yourself. It's how actors and comedians enhance their presence on stage and screen. It lends strength and energy to your interactions, big and small, and is a way of projecting status, minimising self-doubt and moving effortlessly through life. What sort of national conversation could we have? Should it be political? Led by the NHS? Or by psychiatrists? I don’t know what it would look like because everything is so polarised. Are we talking about a cross-party commission of truth and reconciliation? Would that be a healing process? Personally, I’m kind of over it. We have other apocalyptic things to worry about now.”

Of course, for many, the effects of the pandemic are unspeakably profound because of individual circumstances: mental illness, bereavement, grief, isolation, overwork, financial difficulties. But what about the more general effects on those of us who didn’t live through a specific horror? Are we all just supposed to forget this happened? Is that healthy? This was highlighted for me recently when I was talking to a friend of mine who happens to be a brilliant coach. I was recounting something that had happened at work and she kept noticing a change in my voice, it’s tone, speed and intonation. She kept asking me “who’s that talking?” I’d say “It’s me!” She’d say “No it’s not. She sounds different to the person I see in action when you lead courageously from the front, employing your strengths of empathy, compassion, relationship building, emotional control and strategic mindedness. Where’s she gone?” I realised then. That’s when I’m in happy high status! When I’m drawing on my innate strengths. Yes, my experiences, skills and knowledge, but also the stuff that’s unique to me and my make-up. The stuff that makes me who I am. Ask for introductions. Let it happen naturally and organically. You can have a target but you don’t go out of your way to make a connection. Ask for an introduction. Find commonalities and understand that it won’t happen overnight. 21. Entitled Attitude Everyone wants to be able to face challenging situations without feeling daunted, intimidated or stressed. But no-one wants to be labelled over-confident, arrogant or smarmy, or to get caught up in their own hype. So how can you feel authentically confident - without the cringe, and without pretending to be something you're not?Happy High Status is a state of mind usually seen in celebrities, however, is more relevant to the ‘average Joe’ than you might think. From a celebrity standpoint, it is where their status is so high that they are confident that, whatever comes their way, their status will be retained.

Healthy entitlement is the sense that you have the right to want things, even if you might not get them. Or you can be like Conor McGregor’s level of entitlement: Watch this from 3:12 onward. 22. Master how to have great first impressions Look good you feel good. Get out of your comfort zone. Never wear cargo shorts again. Wear a dress shirt, a tie, nice pants and ABSOLUTELY wear great shoes. 24. Placement The world is your playground. You walk into a room and understand that it’s all a game. This is your playful philosophy on life. PS. The power from a master seducer comes from his ability to BE seduced. Seduced by great food, art, beauty and romance. Be sensitive to pleasure (this puts you in a positive mood no matter what is happening). 38. You don’t need anyones approval. Charisma is a great starting point. Quoting Viv Groskop (Author of ‘How to Own the Room’), people with charisma have three qualities:The high status doesn't do anything for approval. He realizes it’s not his responsibility that people are comfortable in his presence. He doesn’t suppress his energy or spirit for anyone. You understand the fundamental aspect of humans. They are bored. People are bored. People are begging to be seduced, to be led astray and come alive. The high status person gives them this gift.

My anecdotal research suggests that it’s no longer fun or sexy to mention the pandemic in social situations, but there are people who warm to the idea that we need to guard our recovered confidence carefully. I have had a number of people tell me that they have found solace in doing things more intentionally (an echo of Samuel’s idea): they have specifically created space for socialising and friendships, rather than just allowing those things to happen, as they might have done before the pandemic. Personally, I consider this to be a learnt behaviour. Some may say you are born with it, like charisma and confidence, however I would disagree. Some will find the journey easier than others, however all require practice. We aim to make all Guardian Masterclasses fully accessible. If you require any adjustments to enable your participation in this course, please get in touch with us at [email protected]. In a series of chapters in which she approaches the idea of status from different perspectives –for example ‘be like final-scene Sandy and Danny’ – Viv Groskop gives a mixture of friendly encouragement, deep dive psychology and practical tips such as ‘leave a gap and a space for a thought to land with the other person.’ This post is about the vast inner world of being high status and some outward expressions that come with it.High status people are leaders. Not followers. As a leader you take charge of the group, you speak to the group lead in the direction that’s best for everyone. 29. Have impeccable social skills These are traits of the high status man.This type of person LOVES going to the gym. He is determined and willing to put in the work.

Have an impossible mission for yourself that you are creating. It takes a great man to decide to occupy Mars. Choosing an impossible goal like stopping world hunger. This elevates your inner world of status to the infinite degree. 28. Speak for the group and to the group Better thoughts = better feelings = better actions = better character = better destiny. Raising testosterone literally changes your life. I haven’t found an official post‑Covid global confidence audit anywhere, but the World Health Organization has been releasing disturbing figures about the pandemic’s effect on mental health. In March 2022, it announced a “ 25% increase of anxiety and depression worldwide”. It’s hard to know how much of this is the mental effects of the pandemic and how much is a result of physical illness and long Covid, global inequality (itself intertwined with Covid responses) and the increasing acceptability of reporting these kinds of anxieties. Posture is not something you turn on and off. If you are reading this right now sitting down….How is your posture?Her other, and maybe even more important point is that Michelle Obama wasn’t born with happy high status. That she had to build up to it, and that it took her a while. And that this means everyone else can learn it, too. (Phew.) Happy high status in writing If it’s absolutely terrible. I recommend you go to the Egoscue clinic. If it’s mediocre read an article about it here. 8. Be actually happy Follow the law of least effort. What can you communicate in a sentence that used to take a paragraph? People with Happy High Status rarely suffer negative interactions with other individuals. They tend to find they are well received by the majority of people, with the exceptions being those with their own insecurities. This is part of making a great first impression. Don’t mess this up. It’s simple but not always easy. 20. Don’t go out of your way to befriend high status people